Decoding Boss's Anger Reloaded

 

This blog post is an updated version of the theorem postulated a week back by me. This theorem has been arrived after several rounds of brain storming and keeping in mind all geographies, ethnicities, religions, languages, species, aliens..a universal version of theorem is arrived..and here goes the theorem ..

The risk of getting scolded by a Boss follows a bell curve where the risk is highest at t_c.
 

β _{is the risk of getting yelled by Boss. Below is the function of the curve.}

β = βo + fp(t) x k x θ

t_o is the time when the interaction with the boss starts
t_a is the time when the person enters the boss’s cabin :O
t_b is the time when the person leaves the boss’s cabin :)
β_o = g(x) is a functional of all external factors which are beyond your control, a sample of the factors are like         

1) Fight with his/her spouse

                2) Financial problems
                3) Promotion frustration
                4) Work load
                5) Arrogant Daughter's boyfriend
                6) Constipation..etc

k factor is a factor depending on the other colleagues of yours, whose presence affects your boss's behaviour with you. k takes any value from 0 to infinity.

k=0; The colleague absorbs all radiation - Give him a chocolate buddy :)

k less than 1; The radiation is distributed
k=1; Indifference with the presence of colleague
k greater than 1 ; The presence of your colleague is detrimental to you. Keep away from him using the θ.

θ is a binary factor and its value depends on your decisions.

θ = 1 if you are present in front of your boss.

θ = 0 if you are absent.(You may visit the washroom, the bank, the other office,department or get admitted in hospital as well)

The function fp(t) is a normal curve and is very subjective to the person(a subordinate). So it has to be worked out after many trial and errors only.

One should be very careful between t_{a and} t_c during which the damage is maximum.

 

With this I take the credit again for this noble contribution for mankind as well as animalkind.

 

Delhi Gangrape - A Heart Wrenching Ordeal

Not exaggerating but... My heart sank...tears rolled in my eyes reading the ordeal she(Amanat) went through on that dreadful day..I was just aware of such incident happening but not the details..till I read this post, which gives an account of the horrific acts done by the 6 rapists...the act of pulling intestines out is so devilish..

Hindustan Times
Huffington Post

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My take on the incident

I tried to understand on why people commit rapes.. following this post...and they say revenge is one of the reasons.... Which I see ..is also the case here.. But that is with the main person who started the fight.... So why did the others follow suit with him..the culture and illiteracy are the reasons for that...

 

I guess the accused might have thought of destroying the evidence of rape by inserting the rod and cause bleeding...else I don't see any other reason on why the third person would inflict such thing..and thinking it to be a rope might have pulled it off..

Update: The main accused has actually pulled out the uterus and intestines using his bare hands making it a spine-chilling horrific act.

 

On the other day...I cut my nail deep with a nail cutter and I felt it was so painful..

I can't imagine how painful the intestines pulling thing could be..salute the girl for being strong.. And that is mental strength

Trying to guess what might have been going through in her mind till that thing.....

 .....may be she wanted to see her family then..and so didn't wanted to give up..she wanted to get off from the incident safe...and also never wanted her parents to know that..she may be thinking it was her worst nightmare...and once she is out safe..she can be careful next time in choosing a bus..I don't know a million thoughts would have flashed her mind..till she lost her consciousness

About her male friend... I don't think even if he had been 10 years older would have made any difference.. 3-4 ppl overpowered him.. hit him with iron rods..I don't think the person's mind would have even functioned..he would have been in equal shock may be worse...we all know its not a movie, where hero hits 10 in one kick..in real world it is difficult..and more so we are not trained to beat anyone..but to study..get job..earn money..get married..that's all..

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Reasons for such crimes

The most important reason behind all this is not the mindset or the upbringing of the perpetrators but it is the.....sheer failure of law and order...
Fortunately or unfortunately the girl was not in a position to even speak after the incident....so she was saved from the ordeal of being harassed by police passing lewd comments on her on asking what she was doing with her male friend.... Read this story..a Rape victim commits suicide..



Public have no trust on police.. This is one of the major reasons for the on-goers not acting..apart from the reasons like coward ness etc


Criminals have more trust on police.. that they can escape easily...



What are women leaders for, when they themselves give up on safety of women. They don't fight for stricter laws cos.they are busy earning by saving rapist ministers..Sheila dikSHIT should resign for her failure..

Another important point.. The media projecting women as sex dolls..these days without item song no movie runs.. The item girls should stop making one...with mature public around I  don't think any amount of nudity/eroticism will be a problem.. Now here comes the culture and illiteracy issue.. We have people who get provoked even by the slightest exposure ..or the worst even a slightest gesture as well..so even girls should act accordingly .. There is nothing wrong in your dress.. But when you have hungry wolves around ..you are at your own..so have to take care of yourself ..
While we talk about safety for women etc, there are some insensitive cheap ones busy encashing even this..Look at that guy smiling while these two dumb girls doing a poonam pandey stunt..

Complete Bikini Album
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Solution

The details of the criminals should be revealed...but there is risk of their innocent family members being attacked..which makes it a dicey thing for the police to do

 

Severe punishment and quicker one...

 

Most importantly ..no partiality in punishment be it minister or beggar.. In fact the ministers should be executed first for gaining confidence.. This will definitely instil fear..as a minister himself couldn't escape the punishment ..

 

CC tv cameras at all public places and again 24/7 police guarding the cameras.. We have so many thieves around..

Strict rules for police..if failed to protect..they should be fired/suspended depending on severity...cases should be dealt in a proactive manner but not in a reactive manner

 

For all the changes in our system, an organized revloution is required..There is one post in FB which goes like this and is the best way to show our resentment.

 

In the view of the death of Delhi's braveheart who passed away last night.

The nation should boycott the Republic Day celebrations in totality! Ensure a "NO SHOW". They don't want the citizens gathering even for a peaceful protest, so why should crowds gather to hear them at their convenience? And what is the Nation celebrating anyway?

We have a failed Government loathing in Corruption! It is time for a Revolution!

Let the PM & the President address vacant spaces & buildings. They don't want our presence now but let us be absent when it matters most. Let the world get a taste of our disgust. Let us shame them by playing their game."

Let us prepare for a New India!

Women should leave their coordinates always with their loved ones.. Can't help but secrecy will only be detrimental to your lives. And always be skeptical with others until unless you know them very well.. And don't even trust people, even people like me as well..Who may seem good prima facie.. Who may say some good things just to earn some brownie points and later take advantage... Doubting a good person is ok, but if you mistake with a bad one then your life goes for a toss....there are no good ppl in this world except your family..and some unfortunate ppl don't get that as well..Let your mistrust be a punishment to the mankind.

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Punishment

From an unconfirmed source the below is the photo of the rapists

Death is so easy thing.. Even the criminals know that.. That is why 2 of the accused even pleaded to get hanged..

 

• The guy who pulled the intestine should be made to drink acid...while all others watch it..
• The one who initiated the fight be burnt part of his body..till the muscles are fried..
• Their genitals are to be let bitten and ripped by dogs..
• Like in Guantanamo bay.. Water boarding is to be done..
• They should be forced to sit on thumsup bottle..till half of the bottle goes into their rear and tears up the large intestine (by the way this is one of the practiced interrogation method) and this process should continue again once the injury is healed..

 

• A New Reality Show : Media houses should come up with a new reality show concept where these criminals will be made to stay together and talk about how badly they repent and they should be given tasks like teaching good behaviour to their inmates. They should plead votes from TV viewers on their performance.. and the one who gets eliminated from the show will have to be eliminated permanently from this world..in the most gruesome way..which will not be telecasted to public but the inmates will have to witness this and also have to lend their hands in making the experience more horrific to the eliminated person. This should go on till the last one survives and the last one..who wins the show will be given a peaceful death of hanging.

 

..the list goes on.. It makes me feel nice by coming up with such brutal ideas on how to punish them..(More ideas are welcome in the comments section)

 

While this incident has shaken the whole of the nation..there have been many similar incidents happening which hit the news headlines..every day..you see a new story.. Another incident which really disturbed me is this one. The baby girl is fighting for her life in hospital. Her father threw her out from a double storyed building, Her only mistake being born as a girl..I wish the girl survives...

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I was sad and happy that Amanat passed away.. Sad that she couldnt see her attackers getting tortured and killed..happy that she is atleast safe and free from pain..somewhere out of the world..

My heart felt condolences to the brave girl..R.I.P

 

Leader and Entrepreneur - Qualities

I had attended a 2 day workshop on "Leadership & Motivation" recently.

 

I felt 2 days was too little time to cover all aspects but the facilitator utilised the time really well in meeting the expectations of the participants.

 

The workshop comprised of

• Pyschometric test
• Leadership profile based on the test outcome
• Ring-tossing game (individual + team)
• Analysis of the game
• Case Study

 

I cannot explain fully on what all was covered during the workshop in my blog but to keep it simple, the below are the qualities possessed by successful leaders and entrepreneurs.

• Initiative
• Seeking and acting upon opportunities
• Persistence
• Information seeking
• Concern for high quality
• Commitment to work contract
• Efficiency orientation
• Systematic planning
• Problem solving
• Self-confidence
• Assertiveness
• Persuasion
• Use of influencing strategies
• Monitoring
• Concern for others

Each one of us can do kind of introspection and evaluate ourselves on each of the quality to understand our leadership profile.

 

I was given a case study on persuasion and below was the flowchart I made to explain the case. The faciltator liked the flowchart approach :)

Dealing a yelling boss

How to deal with a yelling boss?

I know a lot of people who are clueless on how to deal with such situations. The person yelling could be an employer, a colleague, a friend or a family member but the thing which makes it more uncomfortable is when the person is your boss.

 

For all those people, who are facing this situation, I hope this post would be of some use.

The reasons why someone gets into such situation

• Misunderstanding the expectations of boss
• Lacking subject knowledge
• Missing a deadline genuinely/carelessness
• By nature the boss being an aggressive person
• Boss's bad mood being carried away
• ....the list goes on

The reasons why such situations become stressful

• Fear of career within and outside the company being at stake
• Fear of not getting proper appraisals/promotion
• Current financial dependencies
• Location dependencies
• Ashamed of being yelled/abused in public
• Comparison with colleagues [who you dont consider competitive enough]
• High regards for the boss [ you just cant digest a disparaging comment from him]

Consequences

• You don't enjoy coming to office
• Lose focus/interest on job
• Lose confidence on abilities to perform the job
• Creativity is severely hampered
• Become overly submissive
• Mental and Physical health deteriorates
• Personal life gets disturbed [scared to take leaves/permission for personal works]

Tactics to overcome such situations